In Today’s World, Men Are Becoming the Forgotten Pillars
In a society that continues to evolve in language, values, and expression, the role of a man—once clear and revered—has been slowly reshaped, blurred, and in some instances, eroded.
The modern man is expected to be strong, silent, stoic, and unshaken. He must protect, provide, and persevere, all while masking his own wounds. Society often recognizes women as the nurturers and victims in narratives around abuse, emotional neglect, and manipulation. But what about men? When does the world pause to ask: “Who protects the protector?”
When the Abused is the Man
Let’s be honest—emotional, verbal, and even physical abuse doesn’t wear a gender. Yet, when a man says he’s being mistreated in a relationship, he’s met with disbelief, ridicule, or shame.
Statistics taken from, (Domestic Abuse in England & Wales Overview, Office for National Statistics. Nov 2024), (National Centre for Domestic Violence 2024), (Office for National Statistics. 2023), (Femicide Census, 2020) highlighted
1 in 5 adults experience Domestic Abuse during their lifetime, showing statistics of 1 in 6-7 men.
According to a 2022 report by the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control (CDC), 1 in 9 men in the United States have experienced severe intimate partner physical violence, contact sexual violence, or stalking. Many more suffer in silence from emotional manipulation and psychological abuse, but are too proud, or too conditioned, to speak out.
Men who face narcissistic partners—women who gaslight, dominate, emotionally blackmail, or emasculate—often bury their pain. Not because they don’t feel it, but because they’ve been taught not to show it.
The world has fed men the toxic lie that “this is a man’s world,” and that any complaint from them is weakness.
The Weight of Silence: COST!
The statistics are sobering:
Male suicide rates are significantly higher than female. According to the World Health Organization, men are almost twice as likely to die by suicide globally.
Depression in men often goes undiagnosed because they do not express it in the same way as women. Men are more likely to express anger, irritability, or withdrawal rather than sadness.
Studies also show that men are less likely to seek mental health support due to societal stigma.
We’re watching our fathers, brothers, and sons deteriorate behind the mask of false strength.
The Vanishing Man: A Global Warning
Did you know that globally, women now outnumber men by over 44 million? And in some countries, gender imbalance and declining male health are being referred to as a “male crisis.”
In the U.S., a 2023 Pew Research study showed that young men are more likely to feel lost, lonely, and without direction, especially in a society where masculinity is under constant redefinition.
We cannot ignore these signals any longer. The man is slowly becoming an endangered species—not biologically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
The Rise of the Resilient Man
But there is hope. And that hope is you—the resilient man.
The resilient man isn’t the one who bottles pain but the one who acknowledges it, faces it, and transforms it. He steps out of the shadows and refuses to allow cultural shame to silence him. He no longer tolerates abuse, no longer hides behind the veil of toxic masculinity.
He builds homes not with dominance but with integrity. He leads families not with fear but with compassion. He creates communities not with pride but with wisdom.
The resilient man knows his identity and does not let it be modernized into confusion.
Seeks healing over hiding.
Rejects abuse in all forms—even if the abuser is a woman.
Builds stability and vision in his home.
Raises sons to feel and daughters to respect the value of manhood.
A Call to Action
Men, it’s time to take off the veil. It’s not unmanly to say “I’m hurting.” It’s not weak to seek support. It’s not shameful to say “I deserve respect too.”
To every man reading this: You are not alone. Your pain matters. Your healing is possible. Your purpose is powerful.
Let’s end the silence. Let’s rewrite the narrative. Let’s raise up a new generation of resilient men—strong, soft-hearted, steady, and seen.
Recommendations:
- Therapy is not weakness – Find a faith-based or clinical counselor to start your healing journey.
- Men’s Support Groups – Join communities like Men’s Health Network or The Mankind Project for safe conversations.
- Speak up – If you’re being abused, report it. Get help. You are not less of a man for protecting your peace.
- Raise Sons Differently – Teach them it’s okay to feel, cry, and speak up.
- Educate Yourself – Read books like “The Mask of Masculinity” by Lewis Howes and “Cry Like a Man” by Jason Wilson.
- Be the Model – Show younger men that strength is not measured by silence but by integrity and resilience.
Final Words
The resilient man is not a myth.
He is you, rising through pain, standing through betrayal, and reclaiming his God-given role—not as a silent warrior, but a wise leader, a healed soul, and a visionary father of generations.
To the Resilient Man! You matter. You belong. You are not forgotten.
